Ostomate dating

04-Aug-2017 21:40

He told me that it would not change anything majorly, but it would be an adjustment, especially after getting the rectum removed. There are so many concerns when living with a bowel disease.

The rectum is right up against the vaginal canal and provides support, so no longer having it made things feel different. I was worn out easily, so I wasn’t always up for it. And it led to me tensing up a lot and trying to make sure that I was holding everything in, which didn’t always lead to a pleasant experience.

(These are the basic ones that I use from Target, but Awestomy and Ostomy Secrets have some fancier ones.) The wrap also helps me to not even consider my bag during those times.

I know that I have a different story from some in that I was already married when I got an ostomy and my husband was there to help me make the decision and to actually go through all of it with me.

It’s probably one of the first questions you have when you know you are going to have surgery. You wonder not only about the “how is this going to work? ” It’s also a hard question to bring up for many people, so I figure… And we’ll talk about it online so you don’t actually have to bring yourself to ask about it.

But for those who are not in the same situation, I would encourage you to not let your ostomy hold you back.

I believe you will find the other person won’t be bothered by it and will more than likely be supportive. Why would you let something silly like a bag on someone’s stomach get in the way of that? I know this is entirely from the woman’s perspective.

Right after my surgery, I was scared that I would no longer feel sexy and that my husband wouldn’t look at me the same way. It wasn’t immediate, but once I knew how much better I was feeling and got used to the idea of having an ostomy and a bag, I felt even sexier.

I wasn’t worried about what might happen during sex and I was free to enjoy it the way you’re supposed to.

It’s probably one of the first questions you have when you know you are going to have surgery. You wonder not only about the “how is this going to work? ” It’s also a hard question to bring up for many people, so I figure… And we’ll talk about it online so you don’t actually have to bring yourself to ask about it.

But for those who are not in the same situation, I would encourage you to not let your ostomy hold you back.

I believe you will find the other person won’t be bothered by it and will more than likely be supportive. Why would you let something silly like a bag on someone’s stomach get in the way of that? I know this is entirely from the woman’s perspective.

Right after my surgery, I was scared that I would no longer feel sexy and that my husband wouldn’t look at me the same way. It wasn’t immediate, but once I knew how much better I was feeling and got used to the idea of having an ostomy and a bag, I felt even sexier.

I wasn’t worried about what might happen during sex and I was free to enjoy it the way you’re supposed to.

(Don’t worry, I responded with a gracious reply, thanking him for checking out the website.) I often get asked if I’ve ever had a problem dating with an ostomy. Having an ostomy had never once gotten in the way of forming relationships at all.